Growing and Changing
Marcia Hyatt is a leadership and live coach and long time contributor to WTIP.
Gretchen Rubin's new book, Better Than Before, shows creating new habits is not a one size fits all deal. Knowing yourself helps you find your way to positive habits.
Reflecting on the work of Carol Dweck. We can learn to change the channel from our fixed mindset (when we tell ourselves we cannot learn) to a growth mindset (a key for growth and change).
When we try to suppress parts of ourselves, they get stronger.
Being present with our suffering and having the courage to share it with trusted friends is part of the healing process. As Leonard Cohen said, "Cracks are how the light gets in."
We can support ourselves in changing behavior by changing the environment. Don't want to eat as much candy, move the dish further away or out of site.
It can be quite freeing to learn how to accept what shows up versus how it "should" have been.
Do we live a divided life (a phrase coined by Parker Palmer)? Do I have the courage to show up and let myself be seen.